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DISCO DUCK4/19/2024 My husband hated drivers who disco-ducked into the gas station just to get ahead. If there's a vacant station, in front of another vehicle gassing up, the next one in the line will not wait but maneuver its way, however dangerous, to the vacant station. Drivers these days risk banging other vehicles causing mayhem by not giving just a few minutes for both stations to be free. Looking at these maneuvers as a spectator could cause a senior person to have a heart attack. The utter disregard for civility and respect is just out of this world. Civility and decency, folks are surely becoming rarified virtues these days. It's not that you will actually be ahead of others, you just want to prove the point that you're too busy (or important) to be waiting for your turn, properly. This is played out, unfortunately, in larger arenas of life, career, and business. People wanted to be ahead without putting the work and energy into it. People want to dismantle the systems so that they will feel truly uplifted and made equal with the rest. That folks, is the recipe for anarchy, disorder, through revolution without a just cause. I was the real Diversity worker from 2010-2015. I was in the trenches working with diverse elements of my community to bring harmony and connections among these groups. At that time, people scorned the idea that diversity could be a staple form of service under human resources. The words 'Diversity and Inclusion' weren't sexy enough to harbor more visible support than an implicit understanding that this practice helps the bottom lines. Nowadays, DEI experts mushroomed in matters of two to three years. The battle cry is to topple anyone or any symbol that goes against the current standards of morality and ethics. This is like saying, "We know what happened in the past, thus we declare you all guilty of being complicit to the reason our current lives are miserable." On their moral high-horse, this is an emblematic of a generation who are fed by social media thinkers and intellectuals, who don't know any better. I'm very sad that DEI has become a billion-dollar industry run by revolutionaries who bought houses and expensive cars, and hired their relatives when they received vast sums of corporate money. I lament how this had turned out and the miseries of people of color, immigrants, and those living in marginalized conditions continue, unaddressed. I suspect that this hijacking of this practice is all about wanting to get ahead of the line, getting power (and all that comes with it), and believing in their hearts of hearts that they can get away with it. That they truly deserve to be elevated. My husband hated disco ducks. I don't blame him at all. PS. Disco Duck is a popular song in the 70s with a catchy tune and comical lyrics. Google it out!
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BEST-SELLING, SERIOUSLY?4/16/2024 I was stalking some of my competition online (Yes, we do check who was doing, what??) and there was a lot of best-selling titles being thrown around. One author/consultant claimed her book is a best-seller, one that is self-published, autobiographical, and utterly unheard of. The other one is a high-flying speaker with a best-selling book at a prestigious publishing firm. It looks like a great book, but even a 10,000 sales would not make it a best seller. When I learned about being an author and being commercially published, the word "Best-selling" became clear to me. You can game the system, buy all your books and get the title. The Amazon best-seller scheme is totally a farce. There is editorial bias (of course, this is hidden right?) in every publication or press holding these coveted titles. Authors who want to get instant credibility but not quality and hard work that go with authorship are too many now to mention. There's so much fakery in these that it becomes seriously hollow and vain. I'm not a best-selling author but I'm commercially published by a reputable press. They vouched that my work and ideas are top-notch enough to support me in this journey. A third-party serious press is the gold standard but of course, I can aim for the next tier of publications next time. But seriously, in the first few years of my book launch, I got hundred sales from people that get to know me and my work. I just got my first cheque last year. Not much, but it's great to know that people are behind me and in what I do. That's very rewarding in itself. My book and future ones will be long-term products of quality, hard work, and passion to share knowledge and help people as a result. Promotions will continue for quite a long time and the new books will definitely resurrect those preceding it. In matters of business honesty, fellow entrepreneurs, be real. Public, it's all a lie. Don't buy the lie.
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ALWAYS THE MUSE4/10/2024 There's something about physical beauty that people values. In my culture, when you look physically better than all the rest, you get some special attention, whether you like it or not. Mestizas, half-Caucasians get to cover the major magazines and become showbiz stars and personalities. They are elected in public office and some get to really compete in beauty contests abroad and win prizes. If you're smart too, you really get places- a promotion, a graduate scholarship, more friends, and many more perks, perhaps. Nowadays, you might be suspected as a showbiz personality or a social media influencer and people will ask to have a photo session with you while walking in the mall or just doing your business. During my time in elementary school, classrooms would vote for the leaders such as the President and so on. For more than 3 years I got to be the Muse of the Class and then of course, I should have an escort. At first, it was fine, I didn't mind at all. If there's a school event, the Muse and the Escort of each class will lead the parade or be the representatives to meet honorable guests and VIPS. In short, public ambassadors. But after a while, being voted beautiful is not the same way as being regarded as smart, intelligent, or just a very interesting person. And you can be all of these too. Beauty is a value but superficial and over regard and valuation of physical superiority based on certain standards do not make the person more or less better than others. You need internal beauty that is a strong character and identity to weather the storms of life and become a much improved version of yourself. You need self-esteem that comes from within and no matter what you are good, enough, and sufficient for the task of your existence. No amount of makeup, plastic surgery, popularity, millions of social media followers, and doting from your friends and peers can cover the ugly and toxic aspects of one's personality and mask the real life your living. This pattern repeated when I was in high school. But by the end of high school, I was no more Ms. Muse. At the later part, I was voted Secretary and then Vice-President. My grades and overall standing mattered the most. I read more books and literature to keep abreast of international and local events and whatnots. I became a trivia buff, a bit nerdy on spy novels with a culinary bent. I became more well-rounded than just a person with a nice face to look at. After high school, I was never the Muse. In college, I was a consistent Dean's Lister for four years. I was Number 1 in one semester in my Department. I graduated with honors at the end of four years and moved on to take my graduate program. With the flippancy of youth and the culture that values physical beauty above everything else, a young person can stumble. But eventually, the real world opened up to me to rethink this experience and understand that beauty, fame, wealth, status, and even relationships come and go. There 's no permanency in these. You should have to learn quickly and take your genetic advantages and assets appreciatively while working on other aspects of life that needs more work. |