YOU ARE NOT YOUR FEELINGS

i There has been a uptick on people feeling shame and embarrassment in failing in public.

As long as you're not persona non grata for very bad reasons, chin up.

I was in a mentoring program a few weeks ago, this question popped up  from a group of passionate social venture founders. 

This amazed me because the group is doing good doing the right things.

When this question came up, I thought that it's one of these few factors.

Self-esteem issue and the need to be validated publicly. If no validation comes in, the down-side of too much introspection kicks in and putting blame on oneself needlessly becomes the go-to.

There's too much sharing in the public sphere. If you're working on some new schemes or pivots, the world has no business knowing, except those few people who should be informed.

Shame is a sign that there must be something we have done wrong either by commission or omission. If it's about failure or missing the mark as a business person or career professional without being criminally liable or being in the wrong of side of professional conduct, there's no need for this unhealthy feeling.

As what I've heard lately from the social media grapevine,

"This issue doesn't care about your feelings."

"The world doesn't care about what you feel." 

"Your feelings are not you." 

I may add to these too.

"Your feelings do not reflect who you are as a person and what you are capable of achieving "

Stop feeling ashamed by failing.

​Get used to it. 

No one's making a tally. 

Chin up.