i There has been a uptick on people feeling shame and embarrassment in failing in public.

As long as you're not persona non grata for very bad reasons, chin up.

I was in a mentoring program a few weeks ago, this question popped up  from a group of passionate social venture founders. 

This amazed me because the group is doing good doing the right things.

When this question came up, I thought that it's one of these few factors.

Self-esteem issue and the need to be validated publicly. If no validation comes in, the down-side of too much introspection kicks in and putting blame on oneself needlessly becomes the go-to.

There's too much sharing in the public sphere. If you're working on some new schemes or pivots, the world has no business knowing, except those few people who should be informed.

Shame is a sign that there must be something we have done wrong either by commission or omission. If it's about failure or missing the mark as a business person or career professional without being criminally liable or being in the wrong of side of professional conduct, there's no need for this unhealthy feeling.

As what I've heard lately from the social media grapevine,

"This issue doesn't care about your feelings."

"The world doesn't care about what you feel." 

"Your feelings are not you." 

I may add to these too.

"Your feelings do not reflect who you are as a person and what you are capable of achieving "

Stop feeling ashamed by failing.

​Get used to it. 

No one's making a tally. 

Chin up. 

As part of my decluttering goal these past few years, I'm not buying the following (and haven't bought for years):

Pieces of cheap jewelry

Clothes that do not fit, have to be altered or dry cleaned.

Clothes that needed to be ironed all the time.

High-heeled shoes or anything fancy

Candles 

Storage to store stuff that you won't use for years

More storage to shift around clutter

Plastic food storage that won't last 

Spices that will be used only once in an overly elaborate meal

No more elaborate meals.

Single-use kitchen appliance.

Single-use kitchen gadgets

Books you can borrow from the library or read online for free.

CDs, DVDs, and other electronic files storage that break down easily.

What are you not buying this year or haven't bought in years?

​Tell me....