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F.R.B.7/22/2024 If there's anyone, or any thing that had hurt you in the past, for whatever reason or circumstance, you need to apply the F.R.B. PRINCIPLE. It's not the DEI/JEDI/DEIJ/DEIBJ or anything like that. This is: FORGIVE, RELEASE, AND BLESS. You are really creating the conditions for things that have harmed/hurt you to no longer have that power in your life to do so. You are creating another future that is full of grace for others and for yourself. Then you are totally free from the past and that negative feelings that came from that past. Freedom is a choice. Freedom from the past is a choice. One of current students right now had a very traumatic past as an indigenous person. But no matter, how dark her past was, she is willing to rise up and choose to believe that she can overcome and accomplish her purposes in her life. On the reverse, a family member had been griping over a hurtful comment from another relative that took place decades ago. She is telling the incident as if that happened yesterday! Literally, she hasn't moved on from that episode. There is nobody to blame for this misery, but her. I just saw a post in LinkedIn about a woman who met somebody from her past employment, who bullied her as a young staff, and that person didn't even know that they've worked together before. She was still bitter about it. Can't blame her. She can advocate for better employment and working conditions and fight for respectful workplace culture in the future. But she can't do anything about that but learned the lesson and moved on. She can choose to release herself from it. It doesn't matter what happened to you, it's what you do about what happened to you. If you're going to ask me, the F.R.B doesn't mention the word, 'forget.' Forget is part of the release and giving blessing. When you do that, the memory is not negative but positive. You will no longer linger on the offense. If you want to be an effective leader, a joyful person, and an individual with integrity, you can't wallow in the soup of misery by taking on a past baggage that you don't have to. This is a personal, voluntary, and internal choice you can make independent of the other actors' actions after the incident. You can see now that the benefits of this is for you to take and enjoy. Try the F.R.B. It's abundantly free.
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THE NOW ZONE5/13/2024 Live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, and find eternity in each moment - Henry David Thoreau Some days are sublime. Some days are so bad you just wish that that the day would end soon. On both days, one thing is for certain: You only have that moment to live and after that, it's done. A new day and opportunity appears or so we hope. As the great poet and writer, Gabriel Garcia Marquez said in his autobiography and memoir, "I didn't know that that was the last time I would see my friend. My last hug." I lost a great friend from cancer. She was just 35 years old. And some people in my life: family members, friends, colleagues, co-workers, one by one are passing on and will never be replaced. Because the Now Zone is what we have. The future is unknown. The past is a done-deal. Whoever can hold the present and contain its beauty or ugliness or its messiness is a person that is truly alive. Being alive is choosing against many choices to let it all run through but not sink on it. Make mistakes and take risks. Don't let small issues and events ruin your overall standing. One day, my daughter came to me, crying about the imperfect set of legs of her otherwise good drawing of Bluey. I told her, that those legs work for the drawing itself. And the drawing from which she based her work is not even great, just average. Average is alright. Now is the time to create. Tomorrow is for something else. Get into the Now Zone because it's the only place we can really live on.
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BEST SELLING, SERIOUSLY?4/16/2024 I was stalking some of my competition online (Yes, we do check who was doing, what??) and there was a lot of best-selling titles being thrown around. One author/consultant claimed her book is a best-seller, one that is self-published, autobiographical, and utterly unheard of. The other one is a high-flying speaker with a best-selling book at a prestigious publishing firm. It looks like a great book, but even a 10,000 sales would not make it a best seller. When I learned about being an author and being commercially published, the word "Best-selling" became clear to me. You can game the system, buy all your books and get the title. The Amazon best-seller scheme is totally a farce. There is editorial bias (of course, this is hidden right?) in every publication or press holding these coveted titles. Authors who want to get instant credibility but not quality and hard work that go with authorship are too many now to mention. There's so much fakery in these that it becomes seriously hollow and vain. I'm not a best-selling author but I'm commercially published by a reputable press. They vouched that my work and ideas are top-notch enough to support me in this journey. A third-party serious press is the gold standard but of course, I can aim for the next tier of publications next time. But seriously, in the first few years of my book launch, I got hundred sales from people that get to know me and my work. I just got my first cheque last year. Not much, but it's great to know that people are behind me and in what I do. That's very rewarding in itself. My book and future ones will be long-term products of quality, hard work, and passion to share knowledge and help people as a result. Promotions will continue for quite a long time and the new books will definitely resurrect those preceding it. In matters of business honesty, fellow entrepreneurs, be real. Public, it's all a lie. Don't buy the lie. |