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I had a surgery a few weeks ago and before that I had to prepare mentally, physically, emotionally, and relationally (family + household) for this event and its aftermath.
The week prior was a whirlwind of activities from cleaning the house, doing laundry, preparing soup and comfort foods for myself and for my family during convalescence.
A few weeks prior, I was in touch with the head nurse and my surgeon for the questions I have, pre, during, and post-surgery/recovery issues. I have been in contact with an FB group to get a specific sense of the medical things that can come up in the process.
Emotionally, I have prepared myself from this event by strengthening my spirit and resolve and making affirmations that align with my faith. I have prepared my husband to take on the tasks for several days and at least 2-3 weeks as I recuperate. I discussed the same with my daughter but she seemed to be a bit sad that she will be staying over her grandparent's house for a few days that I will be in the hospital.
Well, it all turned out fine.
My surgeon, the cast of nurses, two anesthesiologists did an excellent work.
I am now recovering well and looking forward to fully be in motion in the next few weeks.
My daughter had a blast at her grandparents' house and wanted to do more stay-overs.
My dutiful husband had been unwavering in his support and his leadership in the kitchen, buying groceries, and doing things in the house during this time.
A lot of my friends and family members have prayed for me and they are still praying for a speedy recovery.
I feel better everyday but I wanted to take it easy as I know that healing is a process.
My preparedness has made me feel more in control of this event and less fearful and anxious.
I managed the risks by doing research, asking questions, and seeking guidance from those that can help in their profession and with experience.
I am fully convinced that preparedness whether in our personal lives and in our organizations is the best defense against risks, onslaught of shocks and stresses, and negative events/consequences.
We live in turbulent times. We can't just rely on our doctors, nurses, lawyers, politicians, and even our CEOs and Board to shield us from the threats and risks that are likely and that have important consequences on our lives/organizations.
Learn to advocate for your own well-being, health, security, sense of justice and fairness, and for those that can't.
If not you then who?
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My daughter was complaining about her English assessment today. She was a bit worried as to how she would perform. We already rehearsed some scenario for the exercises where you have to imagine what happens/happened in the series of photos last night. But, emotionality gets in the way.
We all have options and solutions. I will not guarantee that they will all be successful but at least, these options are there for you to take, analyze, and, maybe, you're closer than you think to addressing the issues.
My student in the last session told me that he wanted to take a Masters of Psychology and he had to attain a certain grade level for him to be admitted to this program. It's this one or bust.
I told him, "Well, there are many universities and programs that could be an alternative to that only one. You might be happier and less stressed if you could widen your choices a bit."
But of course, people do what they want to do, no matter how much you will warn them otherwise.
I will never ever believe that this one choice is the end-all and be-all of everything. As life happens, we know that change happens in the blink of an eye. We see systems collapsed, infrastructures paralyzed, and even the securest of securities crumbled in multiple crises environments. If a salesman is selling a widget with a ten-year warranty, you better believe that a warranty is another ploy to give you the peace of mind without the real guarantees.
Emotions have got to do with it, as well as the limited and narrow framing. Politicians and policymakers want to narrow down the issues so they can use a magnifying glass, albeit with more disastrous results.
As for us, we need a wider vista to overcome the paralyzing and emotional roller-coaster of created miseries.
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With a summer pause on my business and with one part-time on the side, I had a more relaxed pace than ever. One of the best things of doing only one thing is that the mind is emptied out to think in a relax way. There are no distractions, fear, deadlines, and pressures.
The other day I was talking about what you can do that is within your control and what you can't to a group of students worried about their grades and how it will look to their parents, their future plans, etc. Much of their worries are based on fear that everything will go completely wrong. A grade can screw up your life or it may not, actually. The range of your control including how you react to failing to meet your goals or expectations is part of your remit.
Taking control over what goes in to our lives and what we allow versus what we have to rid off to allow for better things to come is our individual exercise. When we refuse to take the drama and politics of others and we ruthlessly carve out our own sense of wellness in our time and activities, we are being on top of our game.
The summer pause is exhilarating and a real time out from the time out. I recommend this to a lot of busy executives who are taking much more than they can possibly digest and enjoy. There are wannabe projects that are failing right before our eyes. It's better to bow out and cut losses because it will not shift in any positive way unless the culture changes.
Turns out, emptying out should be regular.